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they ask their friends to help out for events they're in charge of. these friends then go on to find their friends when they need more help. sometimes word never comes around. or sometimes it's plain politics. so if you're not a part of that "friend-friend" circle, you're out. well, unless they are really short of people and you might get to join.
sounds all too familiar? a senior of mine was telling me about such a situation and i totally agree with it. it's true, ain't it. i admit that sometimes i myself contact my friends to help out. things are much easier that way right? as in they're your friends, so it's much easier to work with them and all. also, it's much more convenient that having to ask around and look for strangers.
but, issue of convenience aside, this "friend-friend" thingy is really something for us to think about. i mean, what if there're some people who are really interested to help out? but they may not have such a big "friend-friend" circle and due to that, they may be left out. and ultimately, we all know it's still the people's enthusiasm and interest in helping out that really matters.
really something to think about right?
people always say sorry is the hardest word to say. it's true. think about it. how many times have you quarelled with your bestest friends and when you want to patch things up, you cannot pluck up the courage to say sorry. how many times have you let somebody go just because you're not brave enough to say the word.
many times. the word just encompasses this sense of guilt but many time we're just too afraid to admit that we're in the wrong. and so, we let go of chances that will never come by again.
and with Singlish being an undeniable part of our everyday languages, the use of "lah" has somehow made the speaking of the word easier. look at it. "sorry lah". there's the word "sorry", but the word "lah" somehow made the sense of guilt lesser. so it makes the person less embarrassed about apologising, and the situation easier to handle. somehow, it just adds a little courage to the person apologising
if you're at the receiving end of the "sorry lah", you'll somehow feel that the apology is insincere. and you'll probably still be fuming with anger that you'll never think about how the person wasn't insincere. you'll never think about how he was just in need of a little more courage.
contradictory world again.
group1 soared @ 19:51
xoxo